Dad was born to Edgar and Julia Kitney on the tenth of June 1940 in Rainham. He was raised in 59 Station Highway and for a short while alongside his cousin, Christine. At 12 his sister Ruth was born and you’ll see in outdated household images his satisfaction of being a giant brother. His different cousin, Don stated regardless of Keith being 11 years older than him and never seeing him a lot, he nonetheless has fond recollections throughout the 60s when the household would collect collectively. Even then, Dad beloved to be round household.
In 1954, on the age of 14, Dad joined the Royal Marines faculty of music at Deal the place he performed quite a lot of devices from Violin, clarinet and trumpet. While there he took on a number of totally different roles. Often to learn himself one way or the other. He loved kitchen responsibility peeling potatoes or giving excursions on a Sunday because it acquired him out of the obligatory church providers. Being sporty he included himself in a number of totally different actions; considered one of which was Boxing.
Dad left the Marines as a result of a break up lip, which prevented him from enjoying the clarinet. Though he did this by by accident bumping into somebody he would later declare it was all the way down to a boxing battle.
Upon leaving the Marine he nonetheless continued being part of social actions. It was being part of a cricket workforce the place he first met Mum, Pauline.
That they had all gone to the match on a bus. Dad was sitting on the again along with his associates, when he flicked a cherry pip ahead, fortunately for him it went straight down Mums prime. Dad calmly walked up, requested the captain of the workforce, Mums date, to maneuver as he wished his pip again. Stating confidently and clearly “she’s mine now”. Mum should have loved his confidence as shortly after that they went to the images on their first date. Apparently Dad stated he was very effectively behaved, even when they did stroll the great distance house which he’d retell with a wink and a smile. In 1963, on the age of twenty-two they married and as Dad stated the remainder was historical past, that historical past spanned a 50 yr marriage.
Nevertheless, on one event Dad’s overconfidence backfired. He should have thought he was fairly robust as an ex Royal Marine. He hadn’t fairly anticipated that Mum was additionally a fighter. After they have been enjoying round, Dad goaded her to punch him, with a fast hit and pa was out chilly on the ground. After that Dad at all times did what mum wished and she or he did no matter she might for her “Keith”.
After the plot of Berengrave Lane was handed onto Dad, Mum designed and constructed their household house, having every part the best way she wished which made Dad completely happy; a house that Nathan and I have been happy to be introduced up in.
Dad turned a milkman and labored for Bourne and Hillars after which on to Unigate. Spanning a 30 yr profession.
Being introduced up as a milkman’s son wasn’t essentially the most glamorous occupation to boast about however trying again dad confirmed me that he had a superhuman profession.
He labored ridiculous hours to serve the group. 1 individual at a time, all yr spherical. Nathan and I, in addition to others, would assist him, wrapped up in a number of layers, sporting hats, scarfs and gloves to maintain us heat in all weathers and he would run the spherical, working up a sweat in a t-shirt and shorts with a cigarette hanging out his mouth.
We might watch him stack 5 or extra full milk crates on prime of one another and see him carry them with ease like a stack of books upon a shelf.
We might see a person cowl extra than simply 1 spherical, working 12 hour shifts after which going again out to gather the cash.
I personally have fond recollections of getting a home filled with foods and drinks for the Christmas “rush” so different households loved their holidays.
His dedication to his work, to the group was parallel to his dedication to his household.
For such a very long time of making an attempt mum and pa could not conceive. Nevertheless, they at all times turned a proud Aunt and Uncle to Christine’s kids, Ken and Norah’s after which later to Sue and Keith’s in addition to many others.
After 16 years they lastly managed to undertake, adopting Nathan made them each so completely happy having a child they so longed for. I learn a social providers report about Dad at the moment that stated “he was a quiet man who adopted his robust spouse’s views and simply completely happy that he is acquired “his boy”. In fact, a number of years later, adopting myself, they managed to achieve the rights to foster a day earlier than Mums birthday. Eager to shock Mum, Dad positioned a ribbon on my cot to welcome me into the household as her birthday current.
Rising up our home was a bit totally different although. We did not have the upbringing of “wait till your father will get house” however had extra of a “Do not inform your mum I am letting you do that”. He wasn’t one for holding the principles. It could not have been a “good factor” however he gave myself and Nathan room to smoke, drink and have associates spherical. He even let Nathan, on the age of 12, drive the milk float round Medway; many issues that we’re positive mum would not approve of. So long as we did not do something silly sufficient to attract consideration to ourselves or to him then he did not thoughts.
Dad at all times had his humorous methods.
It did not matter when dinner was prepared as a result of he would have impeccable timing to mild a cigarette the minute earlier than Mum shouted it was performed. Then to return in and moan it was too sizzling to eat as a result of mum left it within the oven too lengthy to maintain heat.
He could not go away the home with out having a sizzling espresso first. We might be operating late, all speeding round or sat within the automobile ready and pa could be within the kitchen placing the kettle on to “moist his whistle” earlier than he went.
He beloved being out within the backyard though we could not name him an gardener. He would, methodically, begin on one strip however by the point he completed he’d must go straight again and restart. There was no level mentioning the remainder of the backyard being overgrown and messy as a result of he’d “get to it quickly” however by no means did.
Mum used to say that dad’s eyelids have been cellotaped to his bum. The second he sat down within the entrance room he would go to sleep. And, nonetheless loudly he was loud night breathing, the second we modified the channel on the TV you’d hear his gruff voice say “oi, I used to be watching that” but his eyes have been nonetheless closed.
When going out for dinner dad appreciated to flirt with the waitress, or no less than Dad’s personal means of flirting. It was the identical routine. He would erm and urm about what to have though he at all times ordered the identical factor. He would query how full he could be or what he fancied after which joke that it did not matter as he was a “rising boy” which, with a cheeky smile, ordered the combined grill anyway.
Regardless of not enjoying, Dad’s love of music remained. Rising up we had his report participant enjoying a mixture of artists and songs, though simply to annoy him we might play Ernie the quickest Milkman within the West, which he hated to mum’s encouragement.
Lastly, his gown sense. Dad appreciated to be informal and cozy but in addition appreciated to decorate well. He as soon as stated it was as a result of he was a “MOD” again when he was youthful. I feel he could have misplaced that in a while when he would well brush his hair, have a shave however put on an outdated jumper, cigarette holed tracksuit trousers as much as his chest however with shiny simply polished black footwear. Apparently, it was the footwear that made the distinction.
When Dad turned a granddad to William and James I noticed a special aspect to him. He was playful, foolish and loved watching movies with them. I’ve great recollections of Christmases at Dad’s the place he would love seeing the boys opening their presents, in addition to placing an orange in every of their stockings to show that they have been each good boys to get one and never a bit of coal. He would additionally put in just a little present from Nanny Pauline in a approach to keep in mind her.
Though he would moan concerning the mess or the noise Dad loved having kids in the home and at all times tried spoiling them. His cabinets have been at all times filled with Jam tarts, jaffa desserts, chocolate rolls and biscuits. It did not matter, squash and deal with awaited any baby that got here in his house.
I will not discuss an excessive amount of about his later years. Battling 2 a number of most cancers, dementia and Alzheimer’s after which the stroke it was robust to observe for individuals who beloved him. Nevertheless, he remained perky and chatty. He would fortunately chat to everybody inside and outdoors the hospitals. He’d introduce everybody who was with him and inform his life story in addition to theirs.
Dad was happiest with a cigarette hanging out of his mouth, Ash able to drop and a cup of espresso in his hand able to entertain.
He was a person of little phrases that might love to speak. A person who appreciated staying energetic however solely after a very good nag from mum. A person who would spend his weekends after work taking us backwards and forwards from many actions akin to soccer for Nathan and Ice Skating for myself while additionally ferrying mum wherever she wanted. A person at all times dedicated to his household
He was a proud Rainhamite, milkman, brother, cousin, dad or mum, grandparent and good friend to all. However importantly he was a proud husband to his spouse. Who I am happy are actually lastly collectively once more. He’ll be missed, by us all, who beloved him.